Thursday, August 20, 2009

Cutting him off....

Why is it that every time, a chick splits with her guy, she feels obligated to split with her "ends"....and suddenly she's Bald??! Or perhaps, she doesn't cut off all her hair, but when she cuts him off (or gets cut off for that matter), she becomes this "new person", "on a new path" in life and suddenly a new Hair Style comes along: new color, new cut, new look?!! We say so much "I AM NOT MY HAIR", but why is that our relationships are?!


I was watching "Breaking all the Rules", and once Gabrielle Union realized she was done with her man (fine Morris!) she was also done with her hair?! lol, & as if it was some secret code for "there's a problem"...Morris automatically knew what to expect! He even mentioned that when a woman cuts her hair, she's taking up a personal offense with a man?!! So she cuts off Morris, and typicality follows: The beautician Cuts off her hair:



And When Reggie Bush and Kim Kardashian split up (for those everlasting "Five days", lol), she changed her hair; some say for the better?! What do you think???



Even in the teeny bopper world: When Miley Cyrus & Nick Jonas's Relationship headed for the deep/dark end....so did her image & hair color?!!! She expressed: "she was a different person when she was with him, & she just needed to change things up again"??!


And while I have Never changed my image for or because of a break up, in 2004, when my close friend Thai died, THE VERY NEXT DAY, i had my (already colored hair) swooped forward in an extremely 80z meets lisa turtles bangs, Hair-do, with Neon Orange tights, a freshly ripped & distressed jean jacket and an oversized T-shirt...AS I HEADED TO CHURCH!!!! The crazy/funny thing was, Everybody Loved it (i even had older people reminiscing on their teen years & swapping Michael jackson, concerts and "sneaking out the house" stories??....& to think I did it all myself; i've never had a more "creative" & spontaneous moment in my life?! LMBO....So idk, what is it that makes a women ALTER herself when she/we find ourselves "cutting him off"?!!!
And I KNOW, Rihanna has been the Queen of "changing it up" when it comes to her hair for quite some time, BUT she's also an Originator (her hair style isn't so "original" these days)....so I was just wondering, is she being stylish or is o' girl "going through"???!!! LOL....





Ok so i actually love her look in this pic, but still, What is up?!


-Shandra e.

8 comments:

supa.starrr said...

lol well i think there's A LOT going on up there in Rih Rih Land. I think women like to fool themselves into thinking they've taken on this "new persona" when they change their hair after a break up, but a lot of the times, mentally, nothing changed. Maybe they wanna feel "brand new"?

Shandra E...*the misses said...

SO TRUE!!! my friend was Dumped & she cut off all her hair...then Lost weight...& cried every night?!! it's like they want to make this public statement to the world; they're hoping they can convince someone...anyone, because they failed to convince themselves: but They're Just Not Over it!!!

even with me & my sporatic "trip to the 80z"...i just needed an "out of body" experinece, not literally but emotionally! It's like we think "if i disassociate myself from all 'I' know" maybe all the hurt/pain will go away...maybe if I get rid of "me" i can escape the past....THAT's LIKE RUNNING AWAY from a falling sky....you can't escape Yourself so you might as well FACE yourself!!!

Sarah Camille said...

First & foremost, what a coincidence! You have your josh & i have mine. Haha, wow. Lol & you & i are rather very similar. I said the same thing about the "biggie/pac" situation. Uh, im a pac fan all the way but i love biggie too, so dont get me wrong... but OMG pac all the way! Haha. Besides that, im such a fashion head, fashion fiend... whatever you want to call it. Lmao, virtual shopping & etc? I am so the same. Gee, haha. I know what you mean about all that.

Secondly, ah this post... yes, i find this interesting. It really does happen. I dont ever remember myself doing anything of the sort though? But i think its a phase or natural action women like to take to get over things like a breakup. Oh well, i guess thats a part of the female human nature in some of us females?

Last but not least, i really enjoy reading your blog. Keep me posted with the interesting stuff! Nothing but love girl. You take care now (;

withlove__starz said...

this is a good topic!! and its soooo true.. idk if its a look how good i could look... look what you missed out on change... or if its im getting rid of my old self so i could really move on??! idk. but i have felt this way before.. embarrassingly, because of the first reason... when your not over someone, you like to show them a "new you" whether is loosing weight.. getting in shape.. dying your hair... but the sad part about it.. is thats only temporary. if you cut it off or loose weight or change your look... your still the person he didn't want inside.. so if he's digging it... that feeling wont last... so basically.... if you do "cut if off" make sure your cutting him off too... the change should be truly for you... to make you happy...

withlove__starz said...

oops.. i meant to say i did it for the SECOND reason.. thinking my new look could say "look what you've missed out on"

Shandra E...*the misses said...

Sarah Camille: yeah, exactly...it's just a PHASE! i don't know that it's so natural though; why wait until the break up or split up?? why not change your hair for you?! SO that makes me think that alot of times, in realtionships, we hold on to an IMAGE, hoping that will help us hold on to a man! "we" do it for them, dress a certain way, look, act & talk a certain way & the moment "we" lose him, we feel liberated in a sense....like we Finally can do something for ourselves! this new look, new color, new cut is for ME"??! idk..so then i think, what happens when the next guy comes along; have we really changed for ourselves or was it just a PHASE and back to "people pleasing" we go...


Starz: I think for alot of women, it's BOTH!!! lol....it's "look how good i look, i'm a new me, & you're old news; i'm over it & you're missing out"!...which makes me think, are they moving on because they TRULY HAVE...or just to prove they could, which means in actuality they're still crying every night and indirectly LIVING FOR EVERYONE BESIDES THEMSELVES?! i've seen it all...from both Women AND MEN!!

i know a guy now: he swears he's over some chick, but really he's "upgrading" his whole look just to prove he's over her, he deserves better & could easily get better?! he's dating superficial chicks that are completely opposite from his ex....yet Still He's Living his Life For His ex and her approval!!! smh...

Cerebrally_Orgasmic said...

Very interestin' concept!!

Neesh B Fly said...

Rihana haircuts be DOPE tHO I don't think she should ever go bald tho i don't kno how that would look on her but yeah i like your blog..