Okay, so this is 2009, and I know, as women, we've come a long way from the submerged 1950's chick drowning in a sea of filthy laundry "too dirty to air", And we've Emerged from the bondage of social stigmas telling us we aren't allowed to make the 1st move, BUT GOODNESS....can't we still expect a man to Know How to pursue us?! and can't we sit back and let him do the chasing without any desire to make it easy...if that's what we choose??
Is it just me or have men lost their "tactics" and skill when it comes to approaching a woman?! I recently read Steve Harvey's Book :ACT LIKE A LADY, BUT THINK LIKE A MAN and he said when a man approaches you, he's always plotting and scheming; he always has a plan and somewhere in that plan...HE HOPES TO SLEEP WITH YOU! (my mother would love this as her speech since my diaper days have been "they only want One thing"! lmbo) While i don't think Steve Harvey meant to say That's all men want, He still put it plain & simple...Men want it and basically they're estimating how long they'll wait and how hard they'll work to get it...from the moment they take interest.
My thing is: Ok, I get this...I even accept this....men are visuals...& truth be told, we all want it eventually. (That's not to say it's our sole intent!) BUT WHY IS IT that these days, a man's way of letting you know he's interested is "HOW YOU DOIN".....HOW BOUT YOU DON'T! like seriously, every guy, whether he's 23, 27, 30, 38, or 15 ( i look young x-/) comes up with the same lame idea to say How You Doin'....AND NOTHING MORE!! AND then they sit there in your face, staring...HARD...obnoxiously looking over the outfit (Steve talks about this as well) and vaguely paying attention to your response for the actual question....As if they're simply waiting for you to take it from there!!??? As if They did the hard part by coming over to approach you, now you have to show some kind of obvious delight before they'll go out on a limb to say another word??! lmbo....UHHH HOW BOUT YOU DON'T ( i will look at you totally unimpressed...with nothing more to say, but "good"...as i keep it pushing!) ugh....
SO, There's this guy....he's 15yrs older than me...a colleague...SWAGG for days (can't believe i noticed, but YES)....nice car, great educational background (HBC is a plus), dresses nice, even walks like he'll run the show...if you let him. BUT for some odd reason, he can't get past saying "HOW YOU DOIN' MS. EDWARDS" with those googly eyes and parted lips...nearly 4/5 times a day!!!! Like what gives??! I swear...i'm out payin my car note...a guy's checking me out (early 20's) i catch his eyes "HOW YOU DOIN?"...I'm on a feild trip with my kids (from work), the bus driver, 21 (he decided to vent "aloud"...riiight), stares me down from the rear view mirror (like omg watch the road...HOW BOUT YOU DON'T KILL ME BEFORE you try to holla??!)...then when i'm exiting the bus...AT THE END OF THE FREAKIN TRIP...yep...smh..."HOW YOU DOIN??"....it's like cummon what's up?! Is it just me....Or have women made it so easy for men to get what they want, alot of men lack luster when it comes to actually trying?! Instead they admire you like crazy...just to ask "HOW YOU DOIN" and see how YOU take it from there?! smh....i don't have the patience or time & i'm liable to say how YOU doin....like Wendy Williams taught me right! ;) lmbo....i'm done with it
hmmm...And then there's that other book "He's Just Not that Into You"??!! lmbo....but as for the "colleague"...i've heard through the grapevine (& he's diggin' me)...SO i don't know...am I being stubborn??? maybeee....but i just can't make it easy; i feel he's too old for this...and i'm too....well...too.....I SWEAR...I am still part-feminist x=p
*And not all of 'em come at me with "HYD" but still...too many do! It's like the ones who say more are with that "can i be your friend" movement; they missed the memo...new catch phrase guys! lol..
...and then i wonder if my response seems so lack-luster itself...they conclude i'm not interested?? hey...it's possible?!
& perhaps someone, somewhere is responding to my HOW BOUT YOU DON'T with an OH, DON'T. EVEN!